. “Enjoy little things in life for one day you ‘ll look back and realize they were the big things…”
Today husband and I celebrate our 18th year together as a married couple. This post however, is not an outline of what makes our marriage successful; rather, it is an enumeration of the little things that my dear husband does that make me love him more everyday.
- He is very prayerful and has deep faith in God. He prays when he wakes up, and prays before he sleeps. Before we go out of the house, we pray together for protection. Before the kids go to school, he reminds them to say a prayer. Before he or I travel, we would pray. We pray before meals. We go to Church when he is home; he goes to Church when he isn’t home…When problems threaten to overwhelm us, he’d remind me to pray and trust in God’s providence. I remember one time when the kids were in vacation in Manila and had to go back home soon for school was just a few days away and we didn’t have enough money for their airfare. My in-laws aren’t the thoughtful kind [at least, according to my standard]; it pains me to say that there were so many instances we sought their help and they often turned us down. And to think that the kids were there to visit them [sigh]. Anyways, I was already panicking. Then one night, at about 10 PM, he called me. The first thing he said was that God is really good to us. It turned out he won Php 60,000.00 in a three-digit lottery that night. A colleague has shared with him these numbers and in desperation, he bet on them. So we were able to book the kids plane tickets, buy our eldest a mobile for her birthday, and send money to my in-laws to pay for the electricity bill incurred because of their grandchildren’s use of the AC [another sigh]. When the sex was really good, he’d say “thank you Lord for this”, just after he tells me he loves me. I have no idea if other men do this but I’m just saying my husband DOES!
- He always helps me around the house. Yes, he can be really bossy. But he seems to enjoy cooking, doing the laundry, cleaning the appliances or cutting grass, not to mention bathing the dogs. He always senses when I’m exhausted so he’d tell me to just rest and he would do all the housework. This after he has traveled uncomfortably almost six hours in the middle of the night to get home. I say uncomfortably because his free bus ride is on those slow, non-air conditioned, unlimited-stop trips. But then again, just about everything in this country is lousy and sucks like hell for poor people.
- He is considerate in the most unexpected ways. When we go to sleep, and he is uncomfortable with his position and wants to turn his back on me, he would tell me, asking permission if he could do so.
- He is a dedicated cop. He would go on street duty for 12 hours straight, on a night shift, standing up most of the time. He studies laws on traffic, drugs, crimes and criminal procedure and follows them studiously. I remember someone bringing him to court and falsely accusing him because he was upholding an ordinance. An ordinance! For him, all laws, big or small, have to be defended. Then there were times he would call me to ask for right terms to put on the complaints he is filing. He passed all police-related examinations and was one of the top ten passers of a national police commission examination.
- He is a loving father and husband. As a dad, he is sweet and solicitous with his daughters. He would patiently take care of them when they get sick; rub ointments on their backs when they have cough, spend time trading jokes and stories with them. And he commands obedience from them with little effort, something I have never succeeded in. He is affectionate but firm. He calls every night just to check if the kids are home from school or if we have eaten dinner. He never fails to call several times a day to make sure we are alright, to say goodnight, and of course, to assure me he loves me.
Yes, these things may seem little. But now I’m recalling them, I realize they are the big things that make a woman most appreciative of her man <3.